Good enough mom

My husband got me a rather unusual gift for Mother's day: a book called "Goodbye super mom, hello good enough mom". A book about giving up on being the PERFECT combination of mom, wife, employee etc.

So I thought about that gift and thought:

What no roses? Fine chocolates?

WHAT am I doing wrong? DO I act too much like a perfectionist? I'm not that bad! How can I a better mom?

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Am I missing something? What can I change to do better?

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Does he think I can't let go? I do relax you know, it's not like I am constantly cleaning or hovering over our children or anything.

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He doesn't love me! He hates me as a mom. I suck as a mom. Do I suck?

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Oh.

And then it hit me.

That was kind of the point of the book.

No?

Hmmm.

So I sat on the couch. Took a good look at our toy covered living room. And I said:

"I'm sitting here on the couch, I'd like some coffee, and don't expect anything more today, because I am good enough mom!"

Score!

Good enough mom: 1 Family: 0

I will do my utmost best to be the perfect good enough mom.

Seriously though. I kinda understand. I want every day to be perfect, to be full of joy, laughter, learning, trips while also having a clean & tidy house, be a good & loving mom and wife, doing good work at my 2 day-job, supporting my husband with his study, developing & learning myself, maintain friendships, visit family, do cultural stuff, house improvements, gardening while making sure every meal is home cooked, moments of relaxation, SPORTS (I started running ehmm two weeks ago) and for me very important: writing. Oh and reading. Without pressure of course.

WITHOUT ANY STRESS!!!

Actually I'm not that bad. I can accept that our house is never really that tidy, meaning you will always find toys somewhere. It's not dirty, but you know, you'll find a dust bunny under the couch. But I haven't really come to peace with that, does that make sense?

This is a more honest open post than I intended. I aimed for funny and instead you got serious. I should be a FUNNY perfect mom. No?

Yeah, I know. I need more balance. And do more writing. It helps to keep my head sane.

And maybe a little more photographing and actually undigitalize the photos we make.. baby album?

See how hard it is?

But ehm. Hubs; thanks. I guess.

Moms: can you be good enough mom? How do you do it?